Developing Usable Experiences

Building oneself

October 30th, 2007 11:31 pm —  197 views

There is this motivation with blog entries to demonstrate or reveal some sort of wisdom or epiphany about everyday life.

But really, blogs tend to be more about sharing the challenges of life. Which makes me wonder, is there a difference?

The last few days have been “no BS days” according to the Waltzing Bear. Those are my favorite types of days. I would rather someone say it like it is rather than saying it like they want it to be. And believe me, there is a BIG difference.

Saying it like it is keeps things short. There is no superfluous rambling. No blowing smoke. It doesn’t have to be curt or rude, just true, brief, and unattached.

But then there are those that think they are telling it like it is but are only fooling themselves into thinking they see things as they are. Unless you are willing to constantly examine the way you see things, you aren’t seeing things as they are. If you are, you would know never to trust what you are seeing. Do you know if you’re looking at the world through corrective lenses when everything is so clear?

But if you say it like it is, people can get hurt? Right? But if you don’t just say it, is it worse? Sometimes you try to say something without saying something and it ends up getting you into a situation where another person feels slighted and stops being an active participant in things like blog posts or emails or meetings or discussions. I wonder to myself at those times, “what the hell?”. Resentment is a poison.

Like Rattan would say, “anger is like a hot coal…if you are holding onto it, who is the one getting burned?”1

Image: I had to reach for this one. After looking through my more recent photos, this one stood out. I took this while walking into the building where I attended a leadership training course a month or two ago. The building was cold and impersonal, but very tall. This picture, with the small tree to left, was a fitting capture of the experience.

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  1. To be honest, those are probably not his exact words. But they do embody a lesson taught to me by him as well as through other Buddhist texts regarding anger and hatred. The person feeling those emotions is hurt more than those to which it is directed. [↩]

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